Debby Gullery opened this Sunday’s message with an intriguing question “Can marriage make you Holy?” The video addresses this question and so much more. We have to admit there is a realm of love that you don’t encounter until you are married, so marriage offers something not experienced in other relationships.

Nevertheless, it’s easy to get lazy and before you know it, you are reduced to thinking “If only my partner would change this habit or that habit, then I would be happier!” Down this well trodden path that leads nowhere, you are forced to encounter the stubborn truth that all relationship work is inner work. In other words, it has to start with “me”!

Debby’s honesty and humor make it easy to lean in and decide “yep, I could improve!” Watch the video below and see how a little investment in your relationship can lead to a happier marriage.

Small Steps to Bigger Love

Debby Gullery is also the author of the book, Small Steps to Bigger Love, which is a practical workbook for improving marriage and relationships. You can order her book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Small-Steps-Bigger-Love-Relationships/dp/0986169900, and it can also be ordered through HSA books.

 
She has over twenty years of experience working with couples and is trained in several marriage education modalities, including PREP, Relationship Enhancement (RE), and Divorce Busting. She has developed her own powerful presentations and style, her seminars are interactive, funny and poignant, and she teaches practical skills and strategies that couples can start using immediately. She has taught seminars across America and in Canada, New Zealand and Thailand, and can meet the unique needs of your audience, congregation or group. She is also available for relationship coaching, in person or by phone.

 

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Main Points to Consider

• What is the purpose of any spiritual practice?
• To grow closer to God and to become more God-like.
• How do we know we are becoming more God-like?
• Not by the hours we spend praying or studying, but by our expanding capacity to love.
• It is within the four realms of the heart that our most significant spiritual and emotional growth occurs.
• The way we look at our marriages determines what we get out of them.
• We might shift from being on automatic pilot, to a daily practice of noticing our behavior and paying attention.
• When we see our marriages as having transformative power, they take on deeper meaning.
• Treating our marriages as spiritualpractices means putting our love into practice or actions.
• When we consciously work at becoming more loving and accepting with the people whom we love the most, then our marriages (and families) become the places where our most significant growth occurs.
• And marriage and family also become the central path to our wholeness and maturity.
• How well can I love this person?
• Marriage as a spiritual practice
  is not for wimps……it’s hard!
• Marriages were designed by God to help us develop our ability to love.